Get sexier

The author’s thesis: “The most important thing you can do for your dating prospects is to get sexier.” Men care about looks more than they “should,” and the main reason her matchmaking attempts fail is men not finding the women pretty enough. Distilled (SFW) from the blog Dispelling Beauty Lies.

Male vs. female beauty ideals differ

• Overlap exists (symmetry, clear skin, not too much fat), but preferences diverge on curves, youthfulness, and clothes.
• Men generally like neotenous (cute, youthful) faces with curvy bodies; women’s media favours angular, contoured faces and a leaner look.
• Media/film rarely shows the cute-face-plus-curves type, and it reads as “poor taste,” but it dominates male-targeted advertising.

Body (most important)

• Don’t be fat. The medically “healthy” BMI range includes weights many men find too heavy to be sexy. Weight is highly controllable — via willpower or GLP-1 appetite suppressants (described as low-side-effect and a sound “investment”). Exercise alone won’t do much for weight.
• Chase the hourglass. Ideal waist-to-bust/waist-to-hip ratio ~0.61 (≈39:24:39); curvier (Kim Kardashian ~0.55) is rarer and even more prized if achievable.
• Method: log weight plus bust/waist/hip every ~0.5 kg to find the weight giving your most extreme hourglass, then maintain it.
• Don’t over-thin. Most women weigh above their peak-beauty weight but aspire below it — aim for “pin-up doll,” not “runway model.”
• Rich men do like curves too (dismisses the “only poor men like curves” claim as based on weak papers).
• Thighs/belly preferences are noisy — chase the hourglass, treat the rest as noise. Some women’s optimum is lower (belly/face gainers), others higher (hip/bum gainers → a slight “Venus tummy” is fine). Targeted exercise (core, glutes, shoulders, back) helps a little.

Face

• Faces vary more in taste than bodies — accept your face and emphasise its striking features rather than chasing one ideal.
• Women prefer more angular/contoured faces (e.g. buccal-fat removal) than men do.
• Skin first. The skincare market is snake oil; rough heuristic — “if a doctor won’t prescribe it, it probably won’t stop spots.” For aging, prevention wins: stay out of the sun, wear SPF daily; retinol is likely harmless to try. Services like Skin and Me can supply prescription topicals.
• If you already have wrinkles: Botox and maybe filler (find a practitioner who does both). Fix wonky/discoloured teeth; braces are fine and men often find them cute. Approach lip filler with caution — she sees more bad filler than lips that need it.

Makeup, glasses, hair

• Wear makeup daily — people assume you’re more attractive even knowing it’s makeup. Learn products via a free “bridal” makeup lesson at a counter.
• Men say they like “natural” but actually want elegant/classy: avoid heavy contouring, don’t over-pluck brows (keep them thick, fill in), a little highlighter for a dewy look; lipstick/mascara/eyeliner/blush are safe. (Cites Sabrina Carpenter as needlessly aging herself with heavy makeup.)
• Ditch glasses in favour of contacts (save glasses for reading/private “extra look”) unless you have very small eyes or a rare facial asymmetry.
• Hair: length, gloss, and thickness matter more than colour, though blonde and red rank best (for white women with healthy hair). Extensions/Olaplex fine. When up, pull out face-framing strands (more than you think, including near the ears). Default to removing pubic, leg, armpit (and visible arm/face) hair — men who dislike body hair dislike it strongly; those who like it don’t feel strongly.

Beauty don’ts

• Don’t remove buccal fat, get tattoos, tan (causes wrinkles, “codes as common”), wear long/painted nails (short/natural, or light pink), thin your eyebrows, cut hair short, dye hair unnatural colours (blonde the lone exception), or get a breast reduction.

Plastic surgery

• The boob job gives the most return (costs ~ egg freezing); studies show highest long-term satisfaction for breast/body procedures, lowest for nose jobs — consistent with men preferring one body type but many faces.
• Caveats: settle your ideal weight first (higher BMI → lower satisfaction); don’t get a small implant (same risk, and people notice); ~1 in 20 have complications (rupture, nipple insensitivity, breastfeeding problems) so don’t cheap out; don’t choose something you’ll later resent your husband for.

Bottom line

• Women, unlike men (stuck with their height), control the main levers: “skinny with long hair and clear skin” reads as attractive and is achievable.
• Men claim to want “natural” but usually prefer unnatural results delivered classily: “better to be a beautiful woman who needs GLP-1s, hair extensions and 37 beauty products than… a mid low maintenance girlfriend.”

Note: the piece drew heavy pushback in the comments (readers “kept waiting for the satire”). Included here as a summary of the author’s argument, not an endorsement.